Collaborative Marriage Planning is all about creating those all important support mechanisms for your relationship that will help it to last and prevent it from faltering at common pitfalls.
It takes the idea of a pre nuptial agreement, but instead of it being a one off occurrence at the beginning of a relationship, hoped never to be needed again, Collaborative Marriage Planning is a process to help you throughout your life together as a couple.
Why would we need this?
The aim is to take the premise of a traditional pre nup much further. Collaborative Marriage Planning will give you both the time, space and support to discuss issues that are important to you and that could potentially result in conflict after your marriage.
For example you may have very different attitudes to risk. One of you might be entrepreneurial and more willing to gamble the family finances on a business venture. If the other party is much more risk adverse that could create a huge amount of conflict during the marriage.
There are many more examples, for instance you may both have very different ideas in relation to children. If any, how many? Private or public education? What are your attitudes to discipline? If this is a second marriage, what are your respective attitudes to step children? Do they stay with you? Do they come for weekends and holidays? Is that even too much? How much do you both think is reasonable to spend on them from your joint income? What are your respective attitudes to parents? Are you happy to give them a key? Do you want them visiting only by appointment? What are your attitudes to them becoming old and infirm? Nursing home or being taken in by you?
Any issues important to you can be explored and discussed in an open way, giving each party the time to communicate their feelings, preferences and opinions.
How it works
Using a team of collaborative professionals – lawyers for each party, plus a facilitator/coach, the focus is on facilitating discussion on those important, but often overlooked areas of a relationship such as discussing difficult issues, building communication, managing conflict, deciding on financial matters, and taking legal advice. The overall aim is to create a 3-5 year marriage plan and partnership agreement that will help you on your journey together as a couple.
Having this kind of expertise on board from the start of a relationship can really make a difference and can steer it in a positive direction for both parties. The reality is that most relationships are not plain sailing and go through difficulties at some point. It is often hard for the parties involved to see how to get themselves back on track when so intimately involved, and despite great beginnings, many relationships can find that the stumbling blocks become too great a hurdle to overcome.
Start and stay on the right track
Your relationship can be set on much stronger grounds with the pragmatic approach brought about by working with Collaborative Marriage Planning experts. You will have the support to discuss all aspects of your relationship, whether it be personal, emotional, or financial, and agree a plan forward as a couple.
Romance can be a wonderful, inspiring whirlwind, however all couples sooner or later have to face the day to day realities of ‘making it work’. If your commitment to each other is to last, then investing in outside help from relationship experts from the outset, can be the very thing that makes the difference in keeping you both happy, loving and together.
To find out more about our Collaborative Marriage Planning service please contact us.
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